psychology dissertation

At last, found a theory that I’d say could beat Florence Liteuraneur 4 temperaments’ theory! The Alpha Male Syndrome, written by Kate Ludeman and Eddie Erlandson , is an excellent book that unveil the phenomenon of turf wars at work and in life.

Yes, I’m guilty of reading too many personality theories and over analyzing them until I don’t know which theory is the absolute truth. Sometimes it is good not to be carried away by your curiosity that wants to know more and more, because too much information would only create clusters. Having selective memories do really help your brain not to overwork. Therefore, after years of conductive study on human behavior, I decided to stick with the most practical theory when it comes personality observation, the 4 temperaments theory: the choleric, melancholy, sanguine and phlegmatic theory. The zodiac sign, astrology, blood type, genetic analogy, type A-B-C personalities theories are well, let’s be honest, interesting to know but not very practical and accurate. I’ve known too many people who are born on the exact date of birth but very different in terms of characters. Yes we know that genetic codes do play a significant role in determining one’s primary character, but those impacts are nothing in comparison to the impact made by circumstances over the years. So I’ll say that if one would trust zodiac sign and astrology explanations on human behavior observation, well, they are just invalid.

However, this theory concluded by Ludeman and Erlandson is very truthful and applicable. The alpha male syndrome actually is sort of explaining the strength and weaknesses of a type A personality person, specifically in the work place. The first chapter of the book is very general and boring. Yes we all know that a type A personality person is a high achiever, one that will do whatever it takes to excel to the top, is stubborn, explosive, impatient and bla bla bla. I’m like okay I’ve known a type A person front and back, side to side, half up and half down, this book is such a waste of money. I’ve put it down in my office desk for 3 days, but this Wednesday morning is so damn boring that I have nothing better to do, so I picked up the book and started to read, and Damn the book is worth much more that the pennies that I’ve paid for.

I’ve never read any book that could tell me the explanations behind a double personality, how to embrace them, how to confront the double personality and how to stop the antagonist side from appearing, how to decode a type A personality person who wears mask when dealing with you and brings out their vulnerable side. I’m like, “This is great stuff!”

See, I’ve discovered that all Type A personalities that I’ve known in real life, do have more than one personality. I know that for a fact. Anyone who is smart enough and strong enough in character wise and successful enough in their lives could put on different personalities for different occasions. And they could play those different characters flawlessly. Some people are aware of the fact of their multiple personalities; the others just do it unconsciously. The multiple personalities just take turn to show up naturally when they are needed.

These multiple personalities are developed over the years, not genetic but because of circumstance, and formed as one proceed in the stages of life. The alpha male syndrome states 3 personas that a type A person do possesses, namely the heroes, the villain and the victim. When the person is performing at his best, he becomes the heroes, when his territory is vandalized he turns into the villain, and when he felt mistreated (mostly because of his own fault) he puts on the victim mask. The characters of every persona is totally different, take a note that we are talking about one same person here.

IT is true that a type B and type C person would not excel as high as a type A person, since history and headline news prove that most leaders, most winners and most high achievers are a type A person, but the irony is also true that type B person does not stress out as much as a Type A person, does not break down, worry, feel anxious, or to the horror of all type A person, would suffer the risk of failing or defeated or injured as badly as a Type A.

A type A person might have the capability of soaring high to reach the corporate top, but with huge asset comes huge liabilities as well. Their liability comes in the emotional department. It’s emotional breakdown for women and blow-up for men. I’ve been blessed to have too many type A people in my life, my dad, my brother, my best friends, and my ex-boyfriends, who have not only inspired, but motivated, encouraged and have become a role model that brings out the very best in me. However, I cannot help but wonder how could such a shinning star, when they are at their worst, could turn into a totally different person. They could turn into their total opposite. A confident person could become so insecure and anxious. A wise and careful person could become so impulsive and making a totally stupid decision. A smart and successful person could harm and destruct oneself in a way that even a normal person would not dare to do.

Ludeman and Erlandson suggest a cure to the Alpha Male Syndrome that I would say to be very helpful. Identify the villain in you and talk to him. Okay, this stuff has nothing to do with horror movies or ilmu jiwa. This is psychology 301: dissertation. This method is very accommodating to differentiate and separate the three characters in you, yes I’m addressing this to all the confused type A person who must have for once at least wondered “who is the real me?”, “How could I do or say such thing? That is so not me.” Because if one person keeps changing masks and different personas, one will start to lose his or her true identity and would not be able to recognize oneself anymore. In other words, the multiple personalities would take control over him or her. Therefore, after you identify the antagonist and weak personalities, it will be easier to control them, after all you cannot kill the antagonist and the fragile sides of you.

The authors suggest that we ask question such as, “Since when does my antagonist influences me? In what situation does it usually appear? What impact has it caused? How could I self destruct in a very stressful situation?” all that kinda stuff. Well, that’s what I did for 2 hours in the office this morning. At it has been an enlightening experience in a self-seeking way haha. Alrightee, hopefully you find a pencarahan too.

the bachelorette : episode 1

Two weeks since they first have been introduced, Microsoft called and asked her out. She did not pick up, of course, because she did not save his mobile number (on purpose. So that when she sits at home on saturday night, she would not be tempted to call him first, and loses ground.) Rule number one: never call first. Rule number two: never pick up anonymous numbers. (dont ask why and just do it. Trust me!) Wait until the caller sms you to tell who she or he is.

Therefore, when the anon number identify himself to be microsoft, she jumped out of her office chair in excitement. "Damn you!!", she screamed inside her head. She accepted the offer for an afternoon coffee on Sunday. She has always loved a school smart, another point scored when the school smart turns out to be a book lover. When he took her out on Sunday, the book store was their chosen destination before settling down for a cup of cappucinno.

After a brief 30 minutes of wondering around the book store, he picked up a couple of good books from the business and IT session. She picked up a harper bazaar for herself. She, accidentally, looked at the price label of the glossiest book out of his stacks, and her eyes widened. "700 thousand for a book, and he picked up 5 books that would cost probably similar to that one. Damn! i love books but rather spend those amount of money on shoes, or BEBE. The man surely loves to read" So she asked him, "Banyak banget belinya. emang berapa lama ngabisinya?" Then he said "Iya hobby sih. kamu juga kan? Di friendsternya ajah bilang a good book worth more than tiffany's.Enak banget yang jadi pacar kamu, entar ngelamarnya gak usah pake diamond. pake buku aja"

of course he knows that she does not mean that phrase literally, or wait, do you think that if someone says so, you think she would mean she prefers books over diamond literally? ARGH she is so going to edit that phrase before someone would get down of his knees before her and presents her with a john maxwell while asking her to marry him. That would be horrific! Anyway this is a not to all the men out there, just in case the girl you are chasing likes to play with metaphors like her, no matter how low-profile, or intellectual, or insane or even nerdy a girl is, she would not choose book over diamond. Never. til the day when Jesus comes back. Never.

But, just to save her face in front of her super cute and super smart and super nice date of the day, and not letting her ego be thrown in her face, she walked to the corporate aisle and picked up a glossy book which review she had read in Times magazines ages ago (good choice equals good taste equals good conversation topic for their coffee session), which would also cause her to not being able to purchase the TOPSHOP tee that she had been wanting to purchase since last month. NOTE to readers: she's only a normal girl, so she is allowed to be shallow occasionally.

At the end of the day, Microsoft and the bachelorette do have a great time talking about business, books and life over a cup of capuccino and a stawberry cheesecake. They might see each other again for another book shopping, but until then, the bachelorette learnt her lesson. Rule number 3: when caught in a life and death situation, choose life. (whatever it takes, just hang on to your dear life) By the way, the book that she picks up: The alpha male. Turns out to be an execellent reading. It is worth sacrificing a TOPSHOP tee, literally.

saturday morning

It's a cloudy morning, with a little raining here on the street of kemang raya, everyone behind me, behind my office desk and computer, have got a little grumpy because of well, you know, work thing. Late delivery, delayed payment, defect in delivered items, bla bla bla. Yah, yah memang kenyataanya orang kerja kaya begitu yah, every new day, every new problem, and this little junior asscociate director has got nothing better to do but to catch up with her morning reading and writing. yahh mo diapain lagi yah? namanya juga kesalahan orang produksi, mo kita ngomel2 seharian juga, wont help to fix the problem.

Anyway, i'm still hooked up on reading biographies. I'm so hooked up in reading pages and pages of articles and stories on the richest man in China: the great Li Ka Shing. He is the first asian that i googled, haha. As much as i love to study the american business tycoon and European artists, i have to go back to heritage, right! Shame on me, i never heard of the name Li Ka Shing until the arrogant Sherlock laughed at me last night, and said "you read warren buffet, trump and all that, but dont know what makes Li Ka Shing so bloody rich, and you call yourself a chinese?"

Iya deh, i admit that the only chinese stories that i am profound of is the history of 3 kingdoms that i read from Legenda Naga (yeah, that does not count) So, i spare my morning to learn about this tycoon and well may be later i'll read on Sun Tzu as well. So apart from the fact that this person's net asset is $22 billion US (forbes 2007), i've researched sum interesting stories on him.

First of all the guy owns Hutchison Whampoa Ltd. (that means, i've worked for the billionaire once. i'm so gonna get back on Sherlock and tell him this!), the license to operate legal casino in Macau, Cheung Kong Holdings, was once a chairman of HSBC and he was invited by Deng Xiaoping to become a member of the board of directors of the China International Trust and Investment Corporation (CITIC) It is China's largest conglomerate and is 42 percent owned by the government of China. Its

function is to serve as the chief investment arm of China's central government and holds ministry status on the Chinese State Council.

Okay, enough of the impressive-slash-boring-facts. Some notable, good enough for entertainment facts on him are his personal stories of course. He has two multibillionaire heir, the youngest one, richard li, is ranked 32nd on the list of the richest men in China, is 40 years old and still single. So ladies, any of you interested in marrying the son of the richest person in china, grab your passport and fly to Hong Kong immediately. the oldest son, Victor Li, was once being kidnapped by the gangster Cheung Chi Keung in 1996. He asked for a ransom of $1 billion. That's a huge amount of money in '96. Though he got the ransom money, the guy should not messing around with the guy who practically owns China, because later on he was arrested and executed in Guang Zhao.

I was intrigued by a statement in the China Business Newspaper in regards to Li's wife. It states "Although she was the wife of Hong Kong's richest man, little is known of her other than that she died of natural causes in the 1980" Gossip tabloid at that time says that the cause of the death is not natural cause but suicide. Being a curious person that i am, i google the net wanting to read all of those gossips column. To my surprise, i found 0 (zero result). I put her name on the search engine and nothing significant appears. All that i could find is just a statement with similar tone to the quote that i put above. ANd i'm like, this is the world of freeflowing information even when i put a name of a nobody, like B or C list celebrity, pages and pages of stories would come up before me. Just look at the black Dahlia, even hollywood is doing a big screen her. But when it comes to the wife of the most powerfull businessman in Asia, NADAH! Eventhough, just very recently, her tomb had been vandalised by some people who hoped to find burried treasure there. Her husband did nothing buy saying that those vandalisers will have bad karma for the rest of their lives. (what?)

Some thinking then come across my mind, is it really that her husband tries to cover up everything, afterall he could hunt down a gangster and put him to the grave, what's the big deal in shutting up the media? Piece of cake. Or that is the way of life that any traditional wife of a business mogul in China has to endure? To really become a person di belakang layar, in this case, jauuuuuhhh di belakang, di ujung layar. Yiahh.. gw nulis posting ini jadi rada takut juga.. jangan2 entar tau2 ada mafia dari Hongkong nyariin gw untuk meng-edit tulisan ini. Hiiyy!! ya udah ahh.. enuf talking of Li kha sing.

Backk to my weekend.. where will we be having dinner tonight, dear? i reckon some places with a good red and chicken. Yes, i'm crossing the rule of matching red with white meat. They do go well together. There is no harm is matchmaking outside the box right? I'm so enjoying my chicken before all of them are dibantai for healthy reasons by the government. ciaoo..

politics talk

poor adam air!! out of all maskapai penerbangan indonesia (yang rasanya sih sama2 gak becusnya) why it must be them yang terus2an ketimpa musibah? Baru juga pemberitaan on the missing plane cools off, now comes another disaster on the damaged wings of the boeing 737-300. That's really what you call a misfortune! Most of my friends (who must have owned 9 lives) told me that they're so flying with adam air, for the low cost, because when you think about it, who can be that unfortunate to have a repeated accident twice in a row, in a very short period of time. The management must have done a very close inspection to make up for the bad publicity that they suffered. Well, you just guessed that right! They just scored another newspaper headline again 2 days ago.

after living in indo for 2 years, I started to have a deeper awareness on what is going on around me. You know, just like when u entered uni. during the 1st yr, you just tagged along and do what everyone told you to do. Your mind is not supposed to be used for thinking purpose, only taking in everything, all information that is presented before your eyes. But as soon as you enter the second year, you started to develop your own idea on how to do stuff. Like back in uni, I never know that you can come and see your tutor in private, to negotiate on assignment deadline. I worked my arse off and could barely score distinction. But you learnt the tricks and treats as you go along.

Anyway, i've learnt my part on how to see things in Indonesian society after i became an idealist for over a year. I opened my eyes and learnt many2 things as i go along. First, i've learnt that there is no such thing as a "too good to be true" offer in indonesia. I've just realised that everyone is sugar-coating their initial speech to make you accepting the deal that they offer. But even until everything is written in black and stamped with materai Rp.6000,00. Things could change in a way that you would never imagine. Too many politics, manipulation and lies that hide in every corner of the room

Every single guddamed decision that we've made here in the never-never-land is a political decision. Even every human person who breathe the Indonesian air, especially jakarta so polluted air, whom you've met everyday is a politician, running their personal and individual party. They are campaigning the airy-fairy promises, all of those marvellous things that they are going to give you, but as soon as they got your vote, janji hanya tinggalah janji. And i'm like, MAN! What about world peace?

Unfortunately, we are not running for Miss Universe's pagent where all we care about is world peace. In this world that we are living in, we have to fight for our own survival. The strong will eat the weak one alive. So, it's either you kill or be killed. Scary thought, huh? But hey, if you dare to dream big, if you want to enjoy the corner office, the director seat, the warm coffee delivered to you every morning, you gotta earn them, even if it's by the hardway. And yep, i have chosen to put my eggs in the high risk investment, i gotta join the election campaign and running for presidency, well in my office at least.

Scary thing about Indonesian politics, it is not only taking place in your cubicle, it is at home when you are trying to pass a referendum to the jam malem regulations, it is in your relationship when you are trying to compensate on what you and your partner can and cannot do, it's in your life for gucci sake. When it comes to politic wars, I reckon the hardest one that you have to fight is relationship politics. Especially, when you have chosen a “queen of England” or “USA president” kinda person to become your counterpart. You, know the kind of person whom are so smart that they believe that whatever that they’ll decide must have been the best decision for the nation, and so confident that they believe that they rule over the universe. okay2 enuf talking on relationship bitchin'.

Speaking of USA president, i reckon the upcoming election is so going to be huge. Barrack obama is suddenly coming to the surface out of nowhere. I've never heard of him before, but in a blink of an eye, suddenly every newspaper column (kompas) every business journal (forbes) , and every lifestyle magazine (yes OPRAH's magazine and harper bazaar) put on his face and profile and comments everywhere. Yeah, yeah cant help liking him as well, afterall his step father is an Indonesian, and Oprah and George clooney love him too. Forbes magazine just stated that Oprah has said that she will do anything in her power, she's the richest woman in the states and the most popular TV host in the world, to make him the president. Now talking about some competition for mrs clinton huh?

as for me, his speech below is the fundamental reason why he has my vote,

"It was because of these newfound understandings–that religious commitment did not require me to suspend critical thinking, disengage from the battle for economic and social justice, or otherwise retreat from the world that I knew and loved–that I was finally able to walk down the aisle of Trinity United Church of Christ one day and be baptized. It came about as a choice and not an epiphany; the questions I had did not magically disappear. But kneeling beneath that cross on the South Side of Chicago, I felt God's spirit beckoning me. I submitted myself to His will, and dedicated myself to discovering His truth"

lagi..lagii deehh...

so, i settle down in front of the computer, with a glass of water (haha! yes that's new. i'm reducing the caffeine intake, for as long as only God knows when, to improve my health) I think dunia ini memang sudah edan! Scorpio goes to church every sunday and Corleone is turning into a Gym freak. And their ex-girlfriend, moi, has not been to church since Christmas and never exercised, but keep binging on chocolate brownies. AH! and corleone keep quoting bible verses (thou his knowledge is very limited) when talking to me. I have officially become the bandel gurl who needs dikasi kuliah padat.

Afterall has been said and done, i've got into thinking about relationship again. I was talking to my dear salsa on the fone for an hour, during office hours, about relationship 100 (yes, we're back to the basics since she's stil 18). We're talking about "the package" of a potential boyfriend. She said, "cie caroline enak yah, pacarnya cakep2, keren2, smart, romantis lagi. Uda deh, tinggal merem ajah milih salah satu"

Her comment is absolutely right, except that they are in the wrong order. Harusnya: milih ajah salah satu terus tinggal merem. Well, what do you think the catch of having a so called perfect boyfriend anyway? Sebagai perempuan, yang memang sudah kodratnya untuk mengalah, we all have agreed that the more perfect a man is, the bigger the sacrifice that we have to make to retain them. My last exboyfriend, whom i will name moscato starting from now on, said "yah kalo semua yang keren terlalu perfect (baik), kasian kita yang biasa2 aja dong. gak kebagian apa2" Sudah pasti semua high quality bachelors itu banyak maunya, afterall that's what make them irresistable right? They know how to play their cards.

"Yah mau sampe kapan putting your heart on russian roullete, dear? Dating a romeo sih sama ajah kaya nanem bom waktu. Tinggal tunggu kapan waktunya hati kamu bakal meledak lagi." Begitulah nasehat temen2 saya after everytime i break up with 'em. I kept trying to prove them wrong, but over and over again, they're the one who prove me wrong. I tried to have a relationship with a decent guy whom in the end we are not connected emotionally, i tried to have a relationship with a bachelor who confessed that "dia sudah bertobat" and wanted a serious relationship, but after one year of trying to be a good boyfriend, his inner "buaya" minta dikasi makan.

Very true indeed, that we are all greedy human beings who want the perfect person with the perfect personality, and having the perfect relationship. Kalaupun ada orang yang perfect dan personality yang luar biasa mantap, pasti relationshipnya gak perfect karena kurang seru. Corleone has always treated me good, giving me his 100% trust, allows me to do anything that i want, taking me to romantic dinner everynow and then, and for some occassion he gives me red roses. But then, because everything seems to good to be true, i have always suspect that there must be something hidden under the rugs. But he has always said the right thing and that makes me to go insane. There never been jealosy, anger, tuntutan ini itu, the relationship becomes well, not very stimulating. It's very "carrie and aidan"

So bottom line, i tell my dear salsa, yah sudahlah, memang lebih enak menjomblo sajah. Lebih bagus buat kesehatan. Jablay itu lebih sehat daripada makan hati. Yah, se-engganya until we find out what we really want, has becoming a more stable and realistic person. Because it takes 2 mature people to tango until the curtain calls. To my defence for all of those who said that i cannot keep a relationship, well, i am admitting to that fact. Mungkin memang saya yang salah. Saya yang kurang bisa mengalah, kurang sabar and dont know how to be a good girlfriend. But i am a very good friend. In fact, i'm still having a relationship with my exes, a platonic one, that is. It's better than having 7 years relationship then never to speak to each other again. jadi, final note to my ex-slash-good-friends: we're good now, huh?

bringing sexy back

finally, i touched the lowest down and ready to get up.

Well, i've said this countless times before, the fact that when you get smacked down really hard in life, i say the best policy is not to pretend that you are okay, dont calm down yourself too fast and not giving time and space for yourself to break down and cry. Breaking down and let yourself to go under is too important for long term benefit.

If we pretend that we're okay, we are just menimbun bitterness and unresolved problem that later on would cause us bigger problem. So i would say, it is okay live in a mess for a while to embrace and accept the fact that life has been shittin' us badly.

Go on, break yourself down until you cannot go any lower anymore. Because when we've touched the bottom end, the only way afterwards, is up.

So, I discover that i have reached the bottom end last night, when having a tall latte with scorpio. The ex boyfriend whom i have olweis thought to be the most bandel of the most bandel people i know. He told me how "bandel" i am now. A hundred people can tell me that i am bandel and it would mean nothing, but when the king of bandel actually thinks that i am bandel.. damn! i must have screwed up big tymes.

Therefore, i went home that night and i said to myself, this is it! i wont harm myself and cause anymore damage to myself. Of course scorpio likes the bandel version of me much more than the terlalu lempeng version. But i make up my mind last night, that's is! the pity party is officially over, this gurlfriend is climbing her way back to the top.

Funny when you sink down to the bottom of the pool, you kinda fell asleep for a while, because you turned into a person you dont even recognise, you turned into someone you dont want to be, you become what the circumstances what you to become, you lost all the principles, the values and the characters that you hold so high previously. So, when i got the wake up call, eventually, i'm like: goodness me, i've been waaaayyss off track. But yea, there is no such thing as being too late to turn back. AFterall, what you are at your lowest point does not define who you are, and big gurls always wake up does not matter how deep she had fallen, rite :)

To my dearest scorpio: i know, you just have to bear with the boring version of me.. no more "gila-gilaaan" 24/7, babe! I'm staying at home, reading john maxwell and working on my work project. I'll see you di gereja jam 9 pagi.

and being a good gurl next door,
who knows what she believes in,
and knows where she is going,
knows what's her worth,
knows who she is and content with that
now that's what i call
sexy

fat, broke, and love affairs

back to blogging, finally, thanks to boredom attack at 15:41. Yes, i hav 2 hours to kill before i can leave the office and hit f'jl for monday afternoon cardio exercise. Those cardio exercise are really an order, in my defence, since i have not been exercising at all in the past 2 months. I am starting to hate the mirror and my newly purchased size 26 jeans Okay, so me friends (all of them) who have been forcing me to put on sum weights, congratulations! jakarta is really a place to rehab all of those nicole richie look alike. I've put on 4 pounds in less than a month. thanks to those huge banjir that caused me to be trapped at home for 5 days: nothing to do except eating, watching DVDs and sleep. Wooho! in 5 days all of my skinny jeans are feelin toooittt, mate! Yes, i dont fit into size 26 anymore..

Moreover, i got to confess to the sin of overspending, well, to put it in the exact words, i've used my credit card to the limit in less than 30 days, God forgive me. That's why i'm in desperate needs to go back to bandung for sin-ciah this weekend. I need suntikan dana to pay the bills. Again, in my defence, i would bet my gucci purse on this: that any sane, vogue-devotee, fashion TV lover, and Kate Moss worshipper gurl would not be able to resist tempation of not falling into the cardinal sin of overspending if she has to pass through a line of boutiques everyday, twice a day that is: on the way to and from work!. If there is anyone who could put her eyes straight on the road, i want the name of her theraphist.

anyhow, people are asking why i ended up taking this option eventhough the other options offer me bigger pays, My dear san2, who has been my bestfriend for a while, had guessed it right. "Pasti pengen dandan and pake baju a la art director yah, lin?" Iyaalaahh.. why would a 22 years old care for working in an established institution, contribute a significant value for the company, stressing over company's budgets and deadline, eventhough they pay big bucks, when she's been offered to a gallery to run and a new appartment to live. The employer had warned me that the job will be boring, that i would have nothing to do but to sit in front of my desk until potential buyers come to the front door. And i'm like, i wont be bored , i have a "project runway, devil wears prada, New-york Fashion week" production in my agenda. My long abandoned high waisted skirts, jersey dress, and peep-toe shoes are ready to breathe the kemang air. So yes, right now the wardrobe has taken the 4th week mark and the review has been fabulous so far.

Moreover,the city could not be more exciting now that all the major players are back in the game, yes, my game that is. Btw, i am allowed to talk like this. I am single. My male-reality-touchdown-best friend, mr. emosi, had said "kade siah, CLBK!" for like a hundred times by now. Well, too late, i am CLBK-ing, my friend. And.. ahh say hello to sum new contenders : the arrogant, lazy but his IQ is 140 so it's okay to be lazy, argumentative, sharp tongue, sarcastic, bae yong jun looking hunk whom i will name: sherlock. Yes finally, found someone who is qualified to be named sherlock! I was hooked after an intense 3 hours arguments on the topic of human behaviour 301 with him over dinner. He is so pedes that he almost made me cry.

And microsoft: yes a computer geek who is unbelievable smart as well. I cant believe someone so young could have his own IT company that he started from scratched, paid for his education in the states for over 5 years, and owns property in the states as well. Now that is a high quality bachelor. Plus, he is cute, has toned arms and wears diesel jeans. So cute that i talked my boss into buying a software system for our gallery from him. (okay, our gallery actually does not need a software system. But who cares? might come handy one day haha)

Apparently, i have not learnt any better after all these tymes. My brother had warned me that moving to jakarta on my own is like entering sarang penyamun, good looking, charming, intelligent- executive, sleek, heart-breaker type of penyamun that is. So, all of my single gurlfriends out there, i'll say bring your gorgeous self to sarang penyamun, where the boutiques are fine, the food are divine, the martini is a killer, and the sight seeing is totally awesome. Cheers