for love or money

ever watched tat show "for love or money", pretty lame show i reckon..it's just a show like "The bachelor" with a little twist over the ending. The winner of the game can choose whether she wants to take the bachelor or the money. D'oh! can't be more dull than tat?! however, the message of the show got me into thinkin..hum>! for love or money.

I've been involved in discussions with many of my male mates, in separate tymes, in regards to the type of ideal gurls tat they've, sort of, wished for. In particularly, i asked these frens of mine about their opinion when it comes to ambitious, business-minded, money-making woman, who is driven to run a million dollar company.

Scared you or attract you?

contra : yah kalo belon merit seh gapapa, cman kalo udah merit mah ga usah kerja lah, entar kasian anak2nya terlantar, terus cewe kalo dikasi kerja entar lupa daratan, maunya ngatur2 di rumah ga nurut sama suami, terus berasa ga perlu suami. Bukan apa2 sepinter2nya cewe jg kan sudah diciptain kodratnya harus tunduk sama kepala keluarga which is suami. Role-nya cewe tuh jadi pendukung dan penopang keluarga..bukan banting tulang cari duit. Apalagi yang terlalu berambisi terus gila kerja...ih, udah pasti diah naro kerjaanya diatas keluarga. Buat apa sukses di kantor kalo rumah ga keurus. Entar suaminya maen gila gara2 "kebutuhan" ga tercukupi, mau tah? Cowo ga ngasih istrinya kerja jg kan tandanya sayang, mau istrinya bener2 bergantung and secured dgn provision dari suaminya. Kalo emang istri ga bergantung dari suami mah, apa fungsinya suami jd kepala keluarga dong.

pro: Bagus banget tuh kalo ampe dapet cewe yang pinter cari duit. Pertama2 ituh namanya intellegence levelnya seimbang. Kalo istri ga dikasi kerja tuh diah ga akan ngerti suami sedalem2nya seperti kalo diah sendiri ngalamin susahnya nyari duit. Kalo istri loe kerja, pasti diajak ngomongnya diajak tuker pikiran pun akan lebih nyambung. Kalo istri taunya bumbu dapur doang, entar suaminya malah kecantol seketarisnya gimana? *emang ujung2nya semuah jg nyeleweng!* Apalagi kalo bisa kerja barengan, istri loe bisa jadi orang kepercayaan loe lah. Daripada gw kasi orang luar buat pegang duit, mendingan kasi ke istri sendiri dong. istri yang ga bisa kerja tuh bisanya cuman buang2 duit doang, ga tau lakinya banting tulang tiap hari. Loe kan jadi tau Quality seorang cewe yang mau diajak susah seneng nyari duit bareng2. Jadi tu cowo jg bakalan lebih ga nyeleweng soalnya kan bakalan bareng2 terus ma istrinya di kantor dan di rumah, terus kalo diah ninggalin istrinya entar perusahaannya bangkrut dong. cowo jg jadi ga bs semena2 sama istrinya soalnya istrinya pinter, jd ga gampang diboongin.

.............hummm?!?!.....................Wat do you say, ladies?

cerita lama

penasaran,
mungkin cman sejauh ituh rasa antara gw sama elo
gw tau banget loe tuh bener2 type gw abis,
loe jg pasti mikir gituh,
semua orang jg mikir gituh.

"loe cocok banget sama dia, dia type loe, loe type dia"
sampe bosen gw denger orang2 ngomong
bosen,
tp gw penasaran jg sih
emang mungkin banget omongan mreka bener

kenapa sih dulu kta ga lebih berani bwat ngelangkah
mungkin karena selalu ada orang laen diantara gw sama elo
mungkin karena loe sama gw, kta sama2 ga yakin
buat ngakuin kalo emang kita tertarik
sialan, gw penasaran sama loe!

kayanya cerita antara kta cman sebentar banget
ngobrol basa basi, jual mahal, ngegombal, malu2 digosipin..bla bla bla
mau maju tp males, tapi mau tapi...argh! apa sih!

and then we have to go our own separate ways,
ya udah lah, gw pikir, sejalannya waktu jg loe cman bakalan jadi salah satu dari sekian
cman tetep aja,
gw penasaran
sejalannya waktu, semua berita ttg loe pasti somehow, somewhat
nyampe ke kuping gw
loe jg kan! gw berani taruhan loe pasti tau
semuah update ttg gw

terus hari ini banget
gw baru tau
tat someone actually had successfully tied you down
gila, gw pikir, loe model yang ga bisa terikat
gw ga jeles seh, uda ga ketemu bertaun2 gitu loh
cman penasaran ajah
just wondering,
loe mikirin hal yang sama ga sih sama gw?


kalo gw tau efek penasaran sama loe bakalan segini gede
mendingan kta ga usah kenal ajah dari pertama
tp karena kta udah terlanjur kenal,
gw anggep aja loe sebagai salah satu dari
cerita lama gw

menulish lagi ah....

gilaa..hari inih dinginya edan!! wat's wif the weather in perth?! siang panas, malem dingin, and currently, hari inih jam 10:47 di east fremantle, the weather is freakin'Cold!! hum..lemme think..a good excuse for a big mug of coffee, yeah! apparentally, i have been trying to give up coffee, i made i pact wif my man kalo gw brenti ngopi dia brenti ngokar, since both of us are heavy users ahahaha, but yeah too bad, he luvs his ciggies as much as i love my caffeine, so the two of us just giving up on trying to stop. current mood: NGANTUK! untung hr ini kantor lumayan sepi..soalnya hari senin bakalan public holiday, jadinya gw nganggur pisan euy..plus i have an assistant now..ceritanya udah jadi supervisor neh muahahah so i can sit back and relax and let the new office trainee to do all the works *kiky u are a champ!* duhh padahal pengen pisan ikutan nonton basket tournament skrg ma anak2..cannot!!

owyah..i have a new hobby now, playing psychology wif people. i have olweis been interested in ilmu kejiwaan, readings abt personality and chareteristic traits, looking at the psychology sides of ppl,. and to some extent applying sum psychology technique to get my point across. *relax, nothing scary, i just use them for marketing purpose hehehe" Belakangan inih seh cman, bener2 dhe, i cannot help but keep analysing the psychological reasonings that cause people to behave and think in a certain way. This is due to the fact that lately, gw been in an environment where people anylise people whom they interact to. My super businessman boss, for example, can read the level of inteligence of a person just by looking at someone's photo. After talking to the person for a couple of minutes, he can tell whether the person is lying or telling the truth. My colleague, doddy is even scarier. He can read my personalities at the firt time we meet. He tells me the type of relationship i am into, and how i react with things, in which 90% of his analysis is true. My mum and my bro are also mind readers themselves, they can read people's face, analyse their personalities and way of thinking, hence they know how to handle and deal with different kinds of people. But i have never been threatened by their abilities, i have olweis turned to them for psychological analysis when i make new frens.

in my perspective the skill of reading a person's character and traits is very important, especially when it comes to business and relationships. when it comes to the matter of ur feeling, ur trust and ur money, u better be assured that the person you are dealing with are not planning to fool around with you. Those psychology experts that i have mentioned above told me tat they got the skills based on their experiences in meeting different kinds of people. There are many ppl whom are very sweet and innocent when u meet them for the first tyme but in the end it turned out that they are the best liars and backstabbers ever. I have different mentors that teach me different methods to "read people". My bestfren tian taught me to read through conversations and wisdoms from the Holy spirit , of course. He happened to be very sensitive towards the ups and downs of his friends because he listen to the wisdom from the Holy Spirit. I think tat wat makes him a very good councellor and advicer, because he knows wat method suits best for different type of people. Anyway, all Christians are given the priviledge to rely on HS guidance when it comes to deal with people.

teruss..my schatchen, my very analytical and speculative schatchen, is obviously one person who really likes to play wif people psychology as well. I hate it but i have to admit tat he got me to do wat he wants without me even realising it. Dammit. Apparentaly he learns my personality that i am a very arrogant person, gengsi ketinggian, so a straight talk would only get us into argument. So this guy, persitently slowly but sure, sweetly and humbly getting his points across to me wif his psychological technique and it just a matter of tyme tat gw kemakan jg akhirnya. pertama2nya memang ga nyadar gw di-licikin..cman as i got to talk and got to kno him, i got to read btw the lines, i tink i started to learn jurus2 psychologynya diah. Not tat i'm saying he has a bad motive towards me, he is jus smart enuf to "menyetir gw". good on you, babe! but i have to learn to play him back to, jd gw bisa nyetir diah jg in tyme of needs hehehe.

so, according to my analysis you can shape, determine, or even manipulate the image that you want to portray to people. Just to test people reaction, i was going out for coffee wif a group of new ppl whom my friend had introduced to me. Then, in the middle of the conversation, ppl are started to gossip about an occurance tat happen to a "hi-bye" fren of mine. Before they started the story, which i dont know to be true or not, they politely asked me whether i know the person or not. Learning from experience, kalo kta mo ngegosipin orang terus tau2 ada yang kenal pasti kta batal dong ngegosipnya...jgn2 entar sampe ke orgnya hehehe so, i put an innocent facial expression and said "who?" Based on the assurance tat i don't know the person, psychologically they think tat it is save to gossip abt this person with me around, so they started saying "there is this one gurl, rite! and she is blah blah blah" and for the rest of the nite i just commented "Really?" "Uh-huh!" "yang mana seh orangnnya?" and so on. I am not interested in the gossip itself, cuman gosip si ini suka sama si ituh, lagian gw ga kenal2 amat ama orangnnya, ga pusing! I just want to test this theory of mind games and hey, it worked. Well, it's just a very very simple example, but yeah there are many tricks tat u can play to get people to think and react the way you intentionally plan them to be.

So bottom line, just think further before you speak and dont be caught up in the hype or atmosphere of a sitation because someone might be manipulatively trying to get you into something u are not aware of. Here's one secret tat i've learnt over the years: to get a person to speak more, dont ask more questions eventhough rationally speaking, you would get more when you ask more, right? Psychologically, people will speak out more when u create silence and awkward atmosphere because they will feel the pressure to break the awkward moment. Simply just people dont like to be caught in awkward moment, on the other hand if u keep asking questions, the tendency is more towards defence from being interogated. Intersting huh? Yeah, let me investigate more and i'll shall be back wif more reports. Just be-careful, as i might go after you. muahahahah *evil laughs*

a changed you?

Apparently i have been receiving many "congratulations" and tagihan makan2 from everyone in past couple of weeks. Well, thankz guys!

these people were quite surprised wif the unexpected quite unbelievable change of status of their complicated little fren, me.

well, here i am making a confession, especially to my frens yang belon gw kasi tau, it's official buddy, i'm in a relationship.phew, even saying the word "relationship" feels weird to me, afterall it's been quite a while since my last relationship kinda relationship (huh?), and to be honest, i am not a relationship person myself. So what the hew am i doing here?It is funny because all of my close frens, who know me well enuf are shocked wif da decisions tat i make. Following the "awwww congratulations" *hugs* "who's the lucky bastard?" *yesh u, lucky bastard!! :)*, come the coments such as:

"loe beneran jadian neh?"

"Tumben amat yang kali inih cepet abis"

"it is soooo not you!"

"yang kali inih maen2 ato seriusan?"

"I thought u are a commitment phobia?"

"I thought u are going back for gut in 3 mths tyme?"

well...the answer is "YES!" to all of the above.

Hmphw..

actually, relationship is such a complicated matter for me. I demand so many things, many unecessary selfish things, both from my partner and from the relationship. he has to fit my social circle, be in alignment with my future ambition, shares the same lyfestyle as me, his IQ must have been almost genius, he has to wear diesel clothing and go to fitness first 3 times a week. i am in favour of long term "pedekate" or "probation period" in order to make sure that the prospected guy fullfil all the criterias above. maaphhh laaahhh emang rada ga kira2..cman tat's just the way my brain works automatically.

but somehow, magically saying, tis guy jus came into my lyfe tanpa permisi and intrude my solar system hehehe i've told my gurlfrens dari pertama gw deket ma ni orang, "i feel sumtink different, i think i can make it work wif tis person" and it does truly work hehehe i dun know what does this guy do to change my attitude towards relationship, it just tat his personalities balance out mine somehow and it turns out that with him, relationship is not as complicated as i have olweis pictured it to be, everything just falls in places automatically.

well, dont get me wrong here. It's not that he said yes to everything tat i want, it is totally the opposite. I must admit tat i am a stubborn and very demanding person. I USED TO THINK wat sort of person tat would be able to tame me, probably i need a super sabar kinda person?! guess i'm wrong. This ga kalah keras kepala, complicated, super thinker boyfren of mine is actually the type of person tat i need. I JUST DONT GET IT how two heads (bedegong heads) tat have different principles about lyfe and relationship, have different common interests, different beliefs could be together? but tat happens to us hahaha

has tat ever happen to u? u wonder how could i like tis person? so unlikely for us to be together? it is not opposite attract because our personalities are so similar, yet we do like and believe in different things in life. we olweis have this theory that we a chance of a relationship to fail if we dont have things in common is larger, rite? He doesnt like everything tat i like. He doesnt like shopping at all, fitness or music at all, he even has different taste in food and the term "beautiful" wif me. wat can we do together then? MOREOVER, his principles on lyfe and relationships are so different to mine too. His perpective on commitment, cheating, quality tyme, passion, intimacy, depth, trust, future and everything are totally the opposite to my principle. Then where are we going to bring this relationship to? we always argue on everthing, to make the matter harder, this guy pinter ngomong lagih, orangnnya licik and knows how to play with people's psychology. *talking about challenge, bebeh maria? try my boyfren hahahaha"

but yea, my frens who know the detail of our arguments said that this is totally the kind of guy for me. I think we are attracted to each other ambition and selfishness, those are our only common ground. but hey, eventhough both of us are very demanding and ngotot, open communication olweis save us in the end. one good trait that he posseses is tat he wants anwers and explanations for everything that he is not so sure of in our relationship. And i cannot answer "ga tau". It has to be "yes" or "no", then "why?" MAN!! at first i was so uncomfortable. Why do i have to tell him the REAL REASON for my conduct. Come on, admit it gurls, we olwes have alesan yang tidak bisa dikatakan behind our "no" and silent treatment rite, the ones that we are too gengsi to say, and wish he will figure it out himself. Uh-huh, doesnt work with tis guy! so yeah, biarpun relationship kta agak intense tp it goes very well. justru intensity inih yg bring depth and quality to our relationship.

Funnily enuf, we've been out in a group couple of tymes, and emang gw ama dia kalo mau beradu pendapat or showing affection (sejauh hugging doang xen, nothing more involved, well not in public *wink*) memang dimana ajah..so we've got random comments from ppl...sum ppl tat we've just only met once said tat we look like a couple tat has been together for years, my close frens are surprised tat i could be so comfortable in a relationship *i used to be jaim and not showing tat i'm an item if i'm in public* , even he and i think tat chemistry is going on between us even though kta baru sebentar deketnya ehehehe so, consciously rationally speaking, things are going good between us, except that kta jadi MENGHILANG dari peredaran, males sekolah en ngumpul ma temen2, maunya bobogohan ajah *tat's normal ya*......well, MAAPHHH frens, give me another month bwat honey moon, and i'll be back, PROMISE *wink*

tis is the recent one, gurls @ any and tika bday

tis foto is so old..cman kirim2 ajah dhe biar ga bosen blogspot gw...