i had written abt. e best-gurl-frens of mine, and how their influences have shaped my whole-being. Anyhow, the frens, whose influence is great in me-lyfe, are not only gurls. I've been blessed thru'out the years thru' frenships wif close mates-whom happen to be male. Being in a close frenship relationship wif. the opposite sex can be tricky and kinda complicated. People are often questioning the motive, "Would it be possible?", "wat if the fren is in a relationship? would it change the frenship?"it's not only other people, sumtimes u find urself wondering too.."wat am i doin wif this frenship?" --- well i can tell u, been there, done that, never regret a day of em ^_^
according to survey, 99.9% people believe tat there couldn't possibly be a close friendship btw boy-gurl without any for of attraction, the other 0.1% are just confused.
My first ever best guy-fren was my first boyfren *note: cinta monyet* i found chemistry wif tis guy in year7 , we hang out for almost everyday at school and became bf-gf ^_^ after 4 months of conta-monyet relationship we broke up and i moved to ausie. However, after we lost contact for a year, the phenomenon of EMAIL is entering the scene, and we found ourselves contacting each other trhu email. When i got back to indo, we have always met and catch up. He was the first person to whom i can talk on da fone for hours and hours, everyday! A wonderful man of GOD, very dedicated in his ministry, an excellent leader wif excellent organisational skills. (three times ketua osis and countless times youth ministry leader), a drum player, and is going to be an architect in 2 yrs time. A sanguine who LOVES TO TALK! and he always find a way to make me laugh, and is very mature eventhough he's only 19. Due to the facts that we live in different countries and only meet in person once a year, we couldnt be as close. Even though kta kalo ngomong nyambung banget en kalo ketemuan pasti lgs semuah news di-update, different circle of friends and 2 totally different lives have created a distance btw us. He's to me is always sum1 to turn to for spiritual advices. He always brings GOD into the picture in every problem in lyfe *salute!*
Because i have asked for his permission to write abt him, i am going to mention his name here, LUCAS Lucky Suherlan.
*neh guah sekalian promosiin elo! eventhough u are taken already hehehe* thank you for the friendship, ky! kta catch-up2an lagih ntar december holiday okei ^_^
Secondly, i want to write about a best friend, a brother, a mentor, someone whom i have to be close with, because his mother and mine are bestfriends hahaha, the most-sabar-est, most rendah-hati, and sum1 with a heart that longs for the LORD alone, an excellent Worship Leader and keyboadist player and sum1 who've seen me in my darkest hours. TIAN!! we have known each other for 3 yrs, jadi deket gara2 we shared kinda similar past *dibentuk sama TUHAN dibanting2 ampe remuk redam tidak berbentuk en dipersiapin for a big cause yeah ^_^* we live in the same world, the world of miracle and grace, the world of tidak ada yang pasti, and the world that is aiming at a vision and dream. Though me might talk often, and there are a lot of cold silence moments btw us *gara2 polos-nya elo yang bikin gw sensi ga karu2an hahaha* tp our prayer covenant could never be broken hey..so yeah, *yannn if u are reading tis* i wanna say thank you bwat smuah understanding loe ama my complex personality and am so looooooking fwd bwat pelayanan bareng lagih in december...God blezh!
Terus terus....seseorang cowo yang udah gw anggep kaya DD guah sendiri, he is one of my brotha's close fren *yunkiemennnn ai kangen yuu braaa*, and is my partner in cryme di cellgroup..MR BOBBY DAZZLER!! si boby neh untung lebi muda dari gw..kalo engga gw bisa dijadiin sasaran RAYUAN PULAU KELAPA-nya die hehehe bobby is a man wif the heart of gold, orangnnya mau nolong banget, ga tegaan ga enakan ama orang, LUCU-nya ama BOJENG-nya beak abis dhe hehehe we share a common interest in CARS and biro-perjodohan yah bob!! lately, we have spent loads of time together yah...gw mengikuti perkembangan diah dari jadi cowo desperate, jadi cowo ngetop, ngejar2 cw, jatuh bangun jadi jojoba ampe skrg udah in a relationship hihihi gw mah ketawa2 terus bawaannya kalo ama diah. cman dibalik semuah sinting2nnya diah, si bobster inih orangnnya sensitive en thoughtful abis *apalagi kalo udah menyangkut the special lady* he has a lot of potential too, in ministry, in business and epritink...*pokoknya loe kalo udah tajir inget2 ama TjieTjie Lin2 yah bob ahahaha*
besides a younger brotha, i have older brothazz whose influence is so significant in me lyfe. Becoz i haven't asked their permissions to write abt em..i wouldnt say so muach..but to all of my brothers who read this blog, yang di sydney, yang udah di surabaya, KOKO ARNOTTT!!!, bro-mozzi...i really thank you all for all the advices, the marah2'n'galak-advice yang udah dikasi ke gw, especially in my abg times hahaha, me so grateful for ur share in the times of me-lyfe.
and theeennn....my two ever-best guy pal! HOPENK 'n si eNyonG..loe orang berdua paling TOP seluruh dunia dhe!!! we've been thru a lot as frens yah...dari yang sweet sampe yang asem dhe, dari perang dingin ampe perang beneran jg udah dijabanin, si Hopenk, juragan dodol garut *hahaha*, inih orangnnya sincere pisan, kalo ketawa suaranya surround sound alias menggelegar kemana2, orangnya rame abis *dari bandung sih yakkk* terus bodynya body marketing euy hahahaha, si hopenk inih kalo udah demen ama cw, dalemnya ajebileee! terus orangnnya pinter juga, lihai jg, en setia kawan abis dheee!!! selama me temenan ama diah mah banyak transaksi yah dari mulai boil ampe buku2 marketing...pokoknya semboyan kita ga bole CIA HOPENG!!! ok hahaha yahhhh trima kazi for olweis bringing laughter to my day, skrg udah jarang konseling cerita cinta lagih seh soalnya mission udah accomplished yah penkkk hehehe *awet2 dhe ama si Doi*
Nyongkeeehhhhh....ini orang yg olweis be there for me during ups and down...we've known each other dari abg times sampe humm...not so-abg times hahaha he's so Damn Smart, so Damn creative, so Damn baikkkk..jago ngegambar, jago masak, jago angkat besi, jago makan, jago ngebut, ga pernah marah, sense of pridenya *bole juga*--jadi kalo mau gontok2an, i meet my match!! hahaha he has a strong conviction in anything that he believes in, adores his parents and respect family values, he is a good listener and orangnnya rational abis...having him as me best fren is a awesome blessing frm above.
yang laen2 ntar disambung part 2 dhe...
so in conlusion, i would say it is true that GURLS can BE BEST FRENS wif GUYS...*i can be 100% sure abt my feeling twrds them is PURE frens* though it's true kalo one party udah ber-pasangan, there is a distance that we have to keep. I have olweis maintained a good relationship wif the special ladies in my boy-frens' lives and we get along pretty well so far ^_^ it is also true tat there are boundaries that have to be kept to sustain the relationships and if both parties respect and truly care for each other, Boys-Gurls friendships are no different to gurls-sisterhood ^_^
